The first date

Probably the most stressful part in dating it is to find a date at all.

The fear ofrejection makes asking for a date, often a test of nerves. Thankfully,modern technology offers ways to reduce the fear of rejection or avoid altogether.Here are some tips for arranging an appointment:1 Do not make it too complicated and just be yourself asking someone out on a date,does not need to be insanely great thing. You do not have to stand for hours infront of the mirror and rehearse your text. Move forward in increments.Ask them to call the phone number of the other, a couple of times,or replace a couple of SMS messages. Get in touch with an idea for going out andask others if they want or they go along. The whole thing is not scary when you leave it out.2 Use online dating services. I'm personally not a big fan of Internet dating.I prefer to meet other people in the "real world" and have also gained the impressionthat people use online dating sites, usually a little below the level ofthe ideal entertainment partner. However, we can not deny that online dating is avery efficient way for an appointment. Whole books could be written onlyon successful Internet dating. I will not discuss in this article specifically on it,but basically it makes sense to send an e-mail (BTW: This wink smileys are lame).Say what funny, write each other a few times and if you feel you are interested,please ask for a date. The fear of rejection is the online dating almost completely left out,so you do not talk too long about the bush. If there is even the slightest signs of arcing,and do not be afraid to hit you.3 Turn your friends into dates. If you are a friendly person who knows many other people todevelop Dates mostly all by itself, this is probably the easiest way to get a date. Be friendly,approachable and take things with other people. The chances are good that you meet someone andbecome the date in a natural way.4th Make use of SMS. I love everything about text messages. They are the perfect dating tool.When you meet someone, you do not like asking for a Date. Just ask for the phone number.Do you have the time, you can flirt via text message. Text is such a wonderfully innocuousform of communication. It is normal that each of the others an hour or two later,responding to a message. All the pressure and the intensity fall off of one. In addition,one can estimate the interest of another person, without jeopardizing his own ego too much.Text is simply a nice, personal way to flirt with someone. Once a relationship is established,ask the others to meet with you for a drink.5th Try your dating skills not to colleagues. It can be very tempting to ensnare colleagues.Finally, you are always with them together. As logical as this may seem too romanticrelationships with colleagues usually end in absolute chaos. You can shake any professionalismthat you have built up in the core or even ruin. Rumors and innuendo of the dear colleagues atthe two lovebirds can be very damaging. Also, you would after a successful date,and then the resulting relationship is no longer break from your partner.Even if you idolize someone, you should maintain a certain minimum distance in daily life.

Dating rules

Let us discuss a few dating rules. These rules are obviously not set in stone,
but they can generally be beneficial.

The rules are particularly interesting for those newto the dating world and will help you to survive the first date.1 Let's take it easy, no complicated arrangements. That means no dinner by candlelight,no flowers, no stopping and no excessive door somber conversations about the future.Just be two people who have fun together. Nothing more, nothing less.2 Keep a back door open. This is especially important if you meet someone youhave met online. Are you planning a first date always so that you can leave it at any timeif it is running very poorly. Meet for a drink or a coffee and prepare it so much so thatthe other person know that you only have one hour to the next appointment. Such "events"can still "magically" disappear when you get on well.3 Keep your schedule flexible. One of the biggest mistakes in newcomers, the planning ofthe conspiracy to take too well. A date is not a class outing. You do not need to know atevery moment what would happen the next moment. Relax, let yourself go and you do not plantoo much. You can get quiet before a few thoughts, but you can run the evening, as he runs.4th Do not go to the movies. Movies are not really for first appointments. They are not really bad.If you are extremely shy, it may even be beneficial to spend two hours with someonewithout having to talk to. However, I would at the first meeting, if possible, refrain fromthe cinema.5th No dinner for the first time the same as with the cinema, but for another reason.Ironically, many people believe, the first meeting should be a movie and dinner.This is just awful! Food is too serious and too personal. To eat with someone whom you barely know,is unpleasant. Stand out this for later on. At the first appointment, you'd better have a drink.6th Not overdo it with your wardrobe! Appointments should not be as serious, but fun.A person's clothing has a major influence on their personality. If someone is dressed very poorly, he usually has no self confidence. Extremely well-dressed people often seem arrogant.Put on just adequate. That means casual, relaxed, but appealing.7th Humor, humor, humor! The importance of humor when an appointment can not be overemphasized.People like to spend time with other people who make them laugh. You can look completely average.If you have a cheerful nature, you will be more popular than any supermodel.8th No talks on the former or, okay?9th No big words, please! Do not come to your appointment with an arsenal of cool sayings thatyou have read in some silly magazine. That is always lame and transparent. Just relax and beas you are. If you do not like the others for your own sake, then so be it and you do not have tokeep your time to disappear.10th Use the name of the other. People like to hear their own name. So instead of saying,"You are indeed quite a daredevil," say they prefer ". So Catherine, you're quite a daredevil," You may, however, do not overdo it. When I started even with the dating, I once told a girl,she found me strange because I've always said your name. That was embarrassing!11th Build on others. Pull it down or never. This can be complicated. You should not buildthe other by sucking up to. For this you can not expect respect. Give her his opponent just felta great person. The best way to achieve this, you give to him or "I am so with you."You are great, the other is too great, since he or she is with you.12th No other girls or guys look behind!13th Treat waiters and bartenders generous, even if you feel they were overpaid and easilyreplaced (which is also true). The way you treat people in the service industry,says a lot about you as a person. Give good tips, please be kind.Do not expect too much from them and not treat them unfavorably.14th They do not complain. Point. You complain about absolutely nothing.People complain they're not particularly popular. The only allowable exception isfor someone else to complain: "What your friend did was not fair to you."15th Do not expect anything. The fact that someone agreed with you, is not an invitation to sex.The other person owes you nothing, and vice versa. Just enjoy the moment. That is enough.

Dating mistakes - that's why you are still single

Dating is mental stress! Always on the lookout for Mr. Right, and if you have a true eeeeendlich
then that you find nice, of course, the pressure is enormous: Will he like me?

Will we seeourselves? What can I tell? And what he will think if ... STOP! Do not make it so difficultfor yourself! Beforehand to stress already and to cramp, does nothing - except that itreduces your chances of a successful rendezvous enormous! We will help you get away fromthe worries, even "That certainly is a great evening". So it is then determined andthe second date.No. 1 worry: "Am I his type?"Before the first date to make a lot of singles thoughts: Whether he is bring? Maybe I'm him tooblonde? Too big? Too fat? Too thin? To succeed? Start does not even like that! First, there isindeed a good reason why you have another appointment. Mutual sympathy is rarely the motivation.And furthermore, you can not know it before, no matter how much you are racking their brains aswell. But most importantly: What's wrong with your preferences? Perhaps He will be blond, too big,too thick or too thin!When dating it is finally not least about what you think of your opponent, if you can imaginesomething together or not. Go completely different approach to the evening and behave as if itwere his test - and not yours! So you can sit back and relax to see what will happen. And bythe way: If he finds you stupid, is not bad at all! Then, they know immediately where you are andneed to imagine a common future - in case of doubt the feeling is mutual anyway.Concern No. 2: "I'm going to embarrass myself for sure!"They are afraid of sheer nervousness turn throw a glass, tangled themselves in speaking orslapstick moderately tripping over the sidewalk? Just go just assume that something will happenin the direction! Because the first awkward moment is over, but it can only get better.You just have no fear that your date you as a man with "errors" (or a piece of arugula betweenthe teeth) is responsible - which are now at times to everyone.If your partner is any good, you can make your faux pas - weglachen together - and hopefully nottoo tense excitement of the first date. And something should be from both of you, you willdefinitely like to think back to the funny story of your first date!Concern No 3: "What if he wants more than me?"It's your first date and you quickly realize that he is more interested in you than you. Him Nowyou are worried that you might hurt his feelings because you do not answer? Well, that'slife - and this too can be a risk eventually go even if you go on the singles market. With afirst date,you have still not signed a prenuptial agreement anyway. Instead, therefore, to makeyou crazy, why not consider it positive that the faster your partner knows what he is,the sooner he can complete the deal.They are neither cold nor heartless, just because you see no future together - and, ideally,you are dealing with an adult who understands and does not mind breaking that a single meetinggoes nowhere. Just say directly what is going on: that you are not interested in a next date!This shows him that you respect him and did not want to hold out or waste his time.Concern No. 4: "Warning: pitfalls!"Your date mentions the name of a heavy metal group, and you interrupt him by saying,"Is the music not a single injury?" It follows embarrassed silence - he really wanted toinvite them namely, to go with him to a concert of his "favorite band" ... As the saying goes?Shit happens! Tastes are different and he may certainly not everything you love it.You might accidentally insulted him, but that is no doom.So instead of having a red face herumzustammeln, you would not mean it, the band was good butsomehow the whole thing live and determined to hear very different, try it with the magic formula: "Excuse me!" You must not be in all respects the same opinion ... If he just looks,he will accept your apology, he still remains insulted, had it with you two do not work anyway.Concern No. 5: It shall be automaticallyThe conversation comes to a halt and your date you on silent. Your silence is terrible unangehem,you have always been bad at small talk and, as excited as you are, you begin to shake offthe cuff topics - topics for a first date are really much too personally. Do that! It is not yourjob to keep the conversation going. A lull in the conversation need not be unpleasant. And if shereally is, talk it simply!It may be that your partner is also a little cramped, but if the topic is even on the table,the mood relaxes perhaps even. Some people find it helps incidentally, is à before the meetingtalk activating la questions "How do you spend most like your Saturday afternoon?" or"What are you planning to travel this year?" to think. Sometimes works wonders!Concern No. 6: "The adoption ..."Your date is coming to an end, and every minute you fear the moment of the break walking more.Whether he wants to see me again well - and will ask for it? Should I ask for it, I want at all,and as I say it, if not? Will he kiss me good - or should I? Do not panic, just follow your gut!If you want to see him again, thank him politely for the evening and leave you determined.If you both had fun, it is the modern communication Thank definitely come to another meeting.So you do not have to rush and already on the landing your doorstep schedule another appointment.If you do not know if mounted a kiss or would be rash to, give your date a motivating smile andshow him that you have enjoyed the evening - now he will feel secure enough to takethe initiative without fear of rejection . If they can not for a kiss, then determines the nexttime - and you also still have something you can look forward to!